Behind the closed Doorss.....

Behind the closed doorss……

This is how we live with our Woes, Regrets, Sadness, Disappointments….Alone behind the closed doors.

We are free to share our Happiness and Success with everyone relatives, friends, neighbours and even strangers, but when it comes to other side of the coin, it should be dealt by us and us alone, behind the closed doors. Without a whimper or a whisper escaping our door we must indulge in our sadness and enjoy the bliss of being a strong person. At end of it we are born alone and we have to deal with our issues alone and blah blah…..and here comes the unending motivation.

Are we really born to suffer alone?? A brave soul fighting the battle Alone…….

What do we have relations and society for?? Just to be there to eat sleep and be a part of our merry life. Are we not diminishing the very foundations of society of togetherness by preaching to deal with things on our own. We as early humans came together to protect and sustain life, formed mutually beneficial environment for sustenance. Are we regressing by preaching Aloneliness?

Don’t share!! don’t discuss!! don’t reveal!!... Oh!! personal issue… just swallow the disappointment and suffocate your life with it, or else face social stigma of being shameless or risk yourself to be used for someone’s ulterior motives. If a human is suffering, irrespective of gender, violence, sexual misbehaviour, bias etc  individual is not motivated to share rather preached to be brave and deal with it alone.

Why women suffer for so long?.... because we are tuned to suffer alone. We are motivated, to discharge our duties religiously towards our respective family and extended families, at the same time politely asked to suffer alone behind the closed doors. what are we nurturing these relationships for when we cant share when we suffer.What will people think? What will neighbours think? What will relative say? ………endless 'what if’s' . Suffocated and smothered poor suffering soul ready to bust out with a Bang!! is quietly buried under "What if's".

All over the world the cases of suicide and violence pertaining to Mental health is on exponential rise. Whether it is the Mass shootings, Suicides, Celebrity suicides, Street violence, Rapes, Drug fuelled violence, Domestic violence…..all have a common thread Alonliness, sometimes the Perpetrator is lonely and other times the Sufferer.Suffering alone in absence of a strong social and familial support is a significant contributing factor behind such incidences. No one to talk to…no one trustworthy to understand your woes….Should we not blame our 'do not talk to anyone' policy behind discouraging sufferers from sharing?

Should we not motivate people to share not just happiness but also sadness?? Should we not Go back to our roots and nurture the significance of being together….being there for each other….being a support and not a regret….

Be a hand to hold.. Be an Ear to listen.. Be a Heart to accept....Be a Human